ANAL SEX FOR BEGINNERS
Anal sex: the good and the bad:
Anal sex has its own pros and cons, including:
The good:
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Intense orgasms: it causes an intense orgasm as the penis presses against and stimulates the G-spot during penetration. The pleasurable sensation can be strong enough to bring a woman to orgasm, and men can orgasm during anal sex.
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It's all about the kink: an individual's deepest desire for how they want to take their sex to the next level during anal sex.
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A great alternative: it's a great alternative, especially for those who don't find fun in normal sex play, but have to rely on BDSM or anal sex until they are satisfied.
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No pregnancy fears: anal sex does not put you at risk of getting pregnant. A woman risks getting pregnant if sperm contained only in semen or semen and pre-sperm enters her vagina.
Since the anus and vagina are not connected, there is no possibility of getting pregnant through anal sex. The only thing to note is that the openings of the anus and vagina are very close to each other.
The bad:
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Preparation: it often takes a lot of time to prepare your partner while you are trying to lubricate the anus so that it is easily penetrable and pleasurable without inflicting much pain.
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It could become an obsession: once you start getting used to anal sex, it could become an obsession and you might find it hard not to give it up. In such cases, your partner may not be satisfied with any other sex game unless it is anal sex.
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It is not everyone's favorite: not everyone likes to have their anus fucked, some may like it the other way around. We are different, so are our preferences. If you don't enjoy it, you shouldn't be ashamed or force yourself to accept it.
Are you really interested in anal?
Many people mistakenly consider anal sex as a purely homosexual act, but the desire for anal sex is not necessarily related to one's sexual identity. The truth is that many heterosexual couples also enjoy this type of sex play. Some men love anal sex because they enjoy the intense sensation that comes from the tight fit of the anus around their penis. And because anal sex can stimulate the G-spot, women may also find it highly erotic. To increase your enjoyment, take your time, use plenty of silicone-based lube, experiment with different positions, and talk with your partner about what feels good - and what doesn't.
Remember, though, that limiting yourself to just one technique will increase boredom and decrease desire. If your anal-only sex life isn't reaching your G or any other point, it may be time to make some changes. Talk to your husband about new and creative ways to bring excitement back into your bedroom. If he refuses to compromise, it may be time to rethink your relationship.
Communication is best:
Communication is important in any relationship, but can be especially important when you are trying something new in the bedroom. If you and your partner have been thinking about trying anal sex, you probably won't try it the same night it's introduced as an option.
And if you are considering trying it the same night, you probably shouldn't. If one or both of you are new to the experience of anal play, it's definitely not something you can start doing without talking about it first.
Plan ahead:
If you or your partner are interested in trying anal sex, make sure you're both interested in the idea. If one person just doesn't want to try it, don't push for it. It's important to respect their preferences and not force them to do something they don't want to do.
A crash course on lubricants:
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Water-based: Water-based is generally the easiest to find and can be used safely with all condoms and sex toys, including silicone sex toys. Water-based formulas are also the easiest to clean, but not quite as slippery as silicone- or oil-based formulas. "Some people prefer water-based lubes for sex because they are easier to clean," he said. "We want the lube to stay behind on butt stuff, so it's good to choose a thicker water-based lube. For example, Astroglide are the most commonly recommended type of lube.
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Silicone-based: Silicone-based formulas can sometimes work with condoms (the packaging should state if they are condom-safe), but should not be used with silicone toys as they can cause the material to break down. "I love silicone lubes because they add a velvety texture to the body, which also makes them great for external anal play and genital massage. Silicone lubes are a popular choice for anal enthusiasts because a little bit of a lot is enough to make them last longer.
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Oil-based: This is an oil-based formula (which means it's definitely off-limits with condoms or silicone toys) with a convenient pump feature that lets you get just the amount of lube you need without wasting any product.
This oil-based lube is made from coconut oil and organic silicone, so it lasts an incredibly long time without reapplication. Since it's oil-based, it's not suitable for use with condoms, but you can use it with your silicone-based toys. Also importantly, there is also a water-based spin-off formula if you like the idea but want something that can be used with condoms.
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Saliva: Using saliva as a lubricant for anal sex is a common sexual practice among MSM (men who have sex with men) and can play an important role in the transmission of gonorrhea. Nearly half of cases of rectal gonorrhea can be eliminated if MSM stop using their partner's saliva for anal sex.
How to avoid pain？
Unlike the vagina, the anus does not usually produce enough lubricant for comfortable penetration, so it is important to use plenty of lubricant or use the following practices;
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Lubricate your finger: before engaging in anal sex with your finger, try lubricating your finger so that it can easily penetrate the anus and help relieve your partner's pain.
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Know the thrust: when engaging in anal sex, mature and move slowly until a person has made enough lubrication. Slow down or stop anal sex if a person feels pain or discomfort.
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Strive for more: if your partner is still trying to get used to the sensation and pain, it is advisable to practice the act constantly so that he / she is familiar with the sensation and thus relieve his pain when he engages in it.
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Skip the numb: during the act, skipping the nub should be put into practice as this will help reduce the amount of pain your partner might be facing.
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Take control: let your partner take control so that he/she can balance the amount of pain by proceeding at a pace that will not cause further harm to either of you.
Anal sex positions:
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To stay on top: Anal sex positions are often kind of face away from each other, but this one allows you and your partner to make some eye contact during sex. This adds to the whole intimacy thing. You can also take things up a notch and soothe your nerves with a little nipple sensation from your partner. This will add another sensory experience and take some of the pressure off your mind from the anal play taking place.
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To take from behind: Your partner begins by lying on their side. Their arms are raised above them and their legs are bent. Then, wrap one of your legs around your partner's torso and keep the other straight. From there, it's easy to begin anal penetration. This is the perfect position for lazy morning anal sex. It doesn't require much work. Your limbs are intertwined. You can kiss each other's neck. It's the perfect start to the day.
Next level anal sex techniques:
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stroking the clitoris: can be a good start and a good way to enjoy a high orgasm. It helps you relax and helps the anal area feel better at first before she gets used to it and learns to enjoy it on her own.
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Speaking of toys: there's a whole world of possibilities when it comes to Toys. If the receiving partner has a vagina, she can try using a vibrator on her clitoris to make the anal sex experience even more pleasurable. (Stimulating the clitoris can also help them relax - not to mention achieve an incredible orgasm.)
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Double trouble: double anal penetration is when two penises, two sex toys, two fingers (or hands), or a combination of these penetrate an anus at the same time. Double anal penetration is a lot of things - intense, sexy, a little scary, and definitely an advanced sex move.
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Drink some alcohol: some people use alcohol to "loosen up" (pun intended) before sex. A drink or two can help you relax so your partner can penetrate you more easily. However, you don't want your sex life to depend on alcohol. In addition, if you drink too much while you are drunk, you may cause injuries you are not aware of until it is too late. Also consider that excessive drinking can impair your judgment regarding safer sex practices.
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Anal training: refers to the steps to get you and your anus prepared and happy to receive butt sex by gradually stretching it with fingers and toys, little by little and over time. Exercise, fortunately, is part of the fun of all things anal - and it can be done alone or with partners.
How to hold:
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Condoms safe: The use of condoms is required before anal sex. After anal sex, change condoms before having oral or vaginal sex. You can also use a rubber dam, latex or polyurethane sheet to place between your mouth and your partner's anus.
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Avoid double dipping: It is not advisable to have double dipping in an anus, it can cause tearing and bleeding for your partner and lead to pain afterwards. Suppose, in a scenario where your partner is used to only one dipping and has not practiced double dipping all the time, inserting double dipping may cause him/her pain.
- Keep sex toys clean: Make sure all sex toys are kept clean before and after use to avoid infection.
